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"A
Question of Lesbianism"
by Ginny
wcollege2002@yahoo.com
or
wcollege2001@yahoo.com
F/F
PREFACE: If you are curious
about lesbianism and want
read about some of what makes some women tick, please read and enjoy. I call this work an "erotimentary"
because it is part erotica and part documentary. I
got myself wet writing it, and I think you'll
enjoy it too (I hope), though it's a bit longer than usual for me.
It seems that with the changing and
accepting culture of today, women in record numbers are coming to terms
with
their lesbian desires. Even women in
long term heterosexual relationships, many of whom are married, are
opting
instead for a female mate, despite the disruption to their family and
the
social burden that one assumes when they embrace this particular part
of their
identity. Young girls also are acting on
their curiosity and experimenting with lesbian sex unlike ever before
in
history - as many as 6 to 8 out of 10 school aged girls admitting to at
least
experimenting with lesbian sex (depending on whether they perceived
same-sex
kissing as qualifying), which is up from 3 in 10 just a few years ago. Even more revealing, as nearly 9 in 10 admit
they are curious and might experiment if the opportunity arises.
So what forces exactly are at work causing
these trends? The debate will always
rage about whether these influences are environmental or biological,
arbitrary
or genetic, indoctrination or willful choice.
The fact that there are as many as 9 in 10 girls who are open to
experience girl-girl sex, but less than half view lesbianism as a
positive
lifestyle, exposes that there are forces of nature in conflict with
forces of
society.
Yet there has been an enormous
increase in the number of openly lesbian girls and women in our nation. It cannot be explained that media influence
and social acceptance is _causing_ girls and women to make such
important and
life changing decisions - especially given the difficult consequences
that
accompany this lifestyle. Still, there
is no ignoring the fact that for every woman who has publicly embraced
her
lesbianism, there are 5 who are still hiding it, as many as 10 who are
struggling with it and refusing to act on it though it consumes them,
and
probably countless more who are curious and will wind up experimenting
when the
right opportunity persuades them.
No, there has to be a much more substantial
reason for so many women to be feeling strong same sex attraction. Environment, culture and the media play a
role to be sure, but these influences do not create a desire, they only
affect
how a person is likely to respond to the same-sex desire and the social
consequences for such a decision. So
while the accepting culture does explain why women might be freer to
live in
the manner that gives them the most happiness and fulfillment and may
then be
more likely to chose a female partner, it does not answer the question
of where
that desire for female intimacy originates.
Companionship seems an easy force to
recognize as playing some part in these trends.
Even heterosexual women tend to have deeper and more intimate
relationships with other women. Often
there is a depth of sharing between two women that is absent with their
male
spouses. This seems to be innate to the
female psyche. Women just connect more
quickly, more deeply and more naturally to other women.
We see this throughout our lives. From
the earliest ages in childhood, girls
naturally pair up with other girls. In
the teen years, pairing with boys is awkward, frightening and probably
the
biggest source of stress and depression in teen girls (now that I think
of it,
this lasts the rest of their natural life as well).
So possibly it is this need for
female companionship and the need to bond and have a close relationship
(something that is common to all women) that is tending, to some
degree, to
drive us towards a female mate. Lesbianism
offers obvious advantages in this area of female companionship.
Security and family is much more
complicated. Human culture has always
been based on families and the fundamental component to that has
traditionally
been a heterosexual couple. In early
times the roles of men and women were vastly different - partly because
of
physical differences, partly for arbitrary reasons.
Hunting, farming, building were dominated by
males, and the fact is they were better equipped to the task at hand
(please
ladies, no flames). So having a male
helped families put food on the table and a roof over their head. Obviously, human culture has evolved to the
point that physical differences between the sexes has little relevance
to the
previously male-dominate tasks of providing for the family - so most of
us now
buy our food rather than kill it.
Certainly the aspect of actually creating a
family was of even greater relevance.
But even that has been overcome by advances in reproductive
science, to
the point women can conceive and bear children without even having to
look at a
man. So in our current society the
former absolute of a man and woman as the basis for a family has been
reduced
to mostly a convenience (and even that convenience factor has been
eroded by
inventions such as the rubber thingy that helps open jars).
Two women are as sufficiently
equipped as a woman-man couple to raise a family and provide for their
wellbeing. So the ingredients
for a successful family is no longer merely one part estrogen
plus one
part testosterone. Rather, it can be two
women who share great love for one another, who connect as soul mates,
who want
to share themselves emotionally and physically with their spouse. This is not a matter of biology at all, it is about two souls connected as one.
So we are left with a third aspect,
and arguably the most dominant aspect, which is sexual desire. What is it that attracts many women to other
women while some have no interest. What is it that causes the same woman to find
the sight of another woman sensual, yet the idea of female-female sex
repulsive
to her? Why do many women find the soft
body of another woman so sexually arousing; why do they long for their
mouth to
know the feeling of a woman's gentle lips upon her own; why does the
contact of
breasts embracing breasts make her vagina drool with anticipation?
I find it odd that in a society that
values choice above virtually everything else,
this is
the only area that seemingly is "supposed" to have only one
option. Obviously society shapes the
acceptability of one choice above another, but what drives the choice
itself? While external forces can
influence a woman's sexual decision, her desires are immutable and come
from
within. Let me emphasize that again, a
woman's sexual desires come from within herself
and
are unchangeable by the world around her.
What she does with that gift of sexual desire is her choice, and
that
decision is the only thing that can be affected by the world around her.
Having a normal family is probably the most
powerful external force that persuades a woman's sexual choice. But as previously stated,
the procreation argument fails quickly.
In addition to alternative reproductive options, the fact
remains that
while a sexually active couple may actually conceive 2-1/2 children on
average,
they will also have sex about ten thousand times throughout their
lives, so sex
obviously has more to do with physical pleasure than procreation. Once the procreation myth is dispelled, sex
boils down to what it should be, pleasure and intimacy between two
people. Sex must therefore be legitimate
if it has
the capacity to achieve the intended result.
To view female-female sex as unacceptable assumes that it is
inferior in
same way to heterosexual sex. This could
not be further from the truth.
The childish claim that two women
can't have "real" sex because one is missing the proper equipment is
laughable for three reasons. Firstly,
the female body has many erogenous zones in addition to the inner
vagina. Secondly, even that one is
erroneously
assumed to require male anatomy for stimulation, but in reality will
almost
always achieve its full potential at the hands of a woman (grin). Thirdly, the body of another woman is in many
respects better suited to stimulate a woman to orgasm: for example, the
smaller
structure of her hand allows for greater penetration and vaginal
manipulation,
and her breasts can also be used to stimulate
her
partner tactilely. But I suppose the
critics are partially correct - sex between two women is definitely
UNREAL.
Consider the function and location of the clitoris. Consider the incredible
sensitivity of a woman's clitoris, and the fact that for most women
orgasm is
most affected by clitoral stimulation; then look at the male anatomy
and the
fact that phallic penetration misses the mark.
One can only conclude that either nature made a design mistake,
or it
had something different in mind for sexual satisfaction.
A woman's body is uniquely designed to bring
mutual clitoral stimulation. Trust me
when I say, nothing feels as exquisite as having your clit slide up and
down
between your partner's supple labia! No,
there is definitely nothing missing when
it comes to two women bringing their bodies together for mutual
enjoyment.
Even those who desire more than
nature provided for, have their choice from
hundreds
of play toys; offering many more selections of color, size (including
uncommonly big and long), shape, some with little appendages that can
stimulate
two erogenous zones simultaneously, and even some that are electrically
powered
offering a "superhuman" experience.
The female body allows for and even
promotes endless options for sexual intimacy.
The softness as two curved bodies press together, breasts
meshing with
breasts; or the possibility of sustained, simultaneous oral
stimulation,
resulting in orgasm after orgasm for both partners; or tribadism
that simultaneously stimulates the clitoris, inner and outer labia, and
even
penetrates to the folds and walls of the entrance to the vagina; all
combine to
make for powerful sexual buildup and release.
Plus there is a plain-old familiarity
and an innate know-how when a woman lies with another woman. Unlike the awkwardness that is typically
characteristic of first time heterosexual experiences, most first time
lesbian
experiences are described as being quite natural. Girls
as young as 12 years old to women in
their 40's often describe their first time going down on another female
as
being "instinctive", as if something inside them was guiding them and
it was designed-in from birth.
So what drives a woman's sexual
appetite and how is it unique? Experts
will tell you that a man's sexual appetite is largely driven by visual
stimulation and the act of sex for men is mostly about release -
usually swift
release. They will often refer to men as
microwaves and women as crock pots - meaning men are instant on and
ready to
fire, while women are slow burners and they enjoy the long ride up as
well as
down (and multiple times I might add).
For women, sex is more relational - they connect more deeply to
their
lover. The build up is critical,
probably equal or greater in importance to the release.
In fact the build up can make the release
last for an extended duration. These
last few points are probably the reason sex between two women typically
lasts
six to eight times longer than heterosexual sex.
Then there are the sex counselors who
spend most of their time discussing the differences between men and
women when
it comes to sex and sexual desires.
Think about this - maybe the reason there are so many problems
and the
reason experts spend enormous amounts of time attempting to correct
those
problems has to do with the fact that people are trying to force what
does not
come naturally. Maybe you can get away
with forcing an antithetical intimacy 2-1/2 times over a lifetime, but
trying
to force something unnatural another ten thousand times will likely
surface
some root problems.
Not surprisingly, most women,
including married women, fantasize about being with another woman. By fantasizing she is not forcing her
conscience nor is she doing anything unnatural, rather she is feeding
herself
what her desires crave. Please, please
hear me - if you are feeling things for another woman, it is because
your body,
mind and soul wants her.
It is as natural and as healthy as the hunger
and thirst you crave for food and water.
Taking action and physically satisfying the "hunger" you have
for her is as obvious and beneficial as going to sleep when your body
tells you
it is tired! Conversely, denying your
natural sexual urges will be as detrimental and short lived a solution
as
attempting to avoid sleep via caffeine.
Sex between two women is starkly
different. Their bodies are similar and
their needs and expectations are much more similar as well. There is a natural familiarity and an ability
to connect with each other. The female
body seems wired to respond better to another woman's touch. If you ask a woman about her first time with
a man (or boy), you will usually hear things like it was rushed,
unfulfilling, even non-pleasurable.
Contrast that to a woman's first time with another woman, where
the
overwhelming majority relate it as a
positive
experience. Soft, tender, satisfying,
passionate, even life changing, are common themes.
Just ask a woman to tell you about the first
time she kissed another woman - you'll probably get wet just listening
to
her! If you think kissing is great,
imagine a long opened mouth kiss while your breasts are simultaneously
squeezing into and over another pair of succulent breasts (oops - think
I made
myself wet)!
Women who had been heterosexually
active for some time often tell how they were completely blown away
when, for
the first time, they felt the softness of another woman's lips on her own. For
some,
it was the sweetness of watching another woman suckle
her breast, or the feel of a turgid nipple filling her mouth. And there is the unmatched excitement that
occurred as fear and trepidation turned into explosive release when a
woman
went down on her for the first time.
It is a mystery to me why so many
women prefer to have a hard cock ramming inside their mouth rather than
the
feel a supple vulva as it tantalizes their tongue and taste buds. Then again, maybe it's more about
"tolerating" rather than "preferring". I
have to believe this is the result of an
outside influence. Let me make it known,
I am NOT "heterophobic".
But given the differences in needs, wants, methods
and physiology, I would expect that a woman who chooses to surrender
her sexual
fulfillment to the hands of a male, would be the exception rather than
the rule
(make that an exception who is settling for something less than she
could
have).
From my own experience, when I dress
in sexy lingerie, so that my breasts are captured in shimmering satin,
my
nipples proudly poking through, and my vulva is surrounded by smooth
panties
edged in lace, I feel completely sexy and I think I look sexy too. So obviously when I see another woman dressed
this way I similarly think that she looks sexy as well.
And yes, I get turned on. This
seems natural to me - even more than
that - I can't understand how a woman can feel sexy about her own body,
yet not
feel aroused by the body of another woman.
This seems so unnatural to me - to the point that I suspect many
women
are denying their true feelings when they claim they are not affected.
Certainly the disparity between the
duration of lesbian vs heterosexual
physical intimacy
reveals much about the differences in the quality and magnitude of
sexual
contact. Similarly, the orgasmic
release, physical satisfaction, and emotional fulfillment would also
have to
follow in proportion.
Statistics support this
reasoning. Nearly unanimously, women who
have experienced or even experimented with female-female sex related it
as a
positive experience. Most said they
enjoyed it and found it fulfilling, even those who made the choice not
to continue
on with woman to woman sex. And these
are just those who actually acted - there are many more women who
desire to
experience female-female sex but have not yet done so.
Besides the stigma of homosexuality
and fear of ruining their heterosexual marriage, many are fearful or
insecure
about sex with a woman, especially given the culture induced perception
of what
sex is supposed to be (i.e. phallic penetration). The
result may be that they think they cannot
properly satisfy another woman sexually.
This is completely irrational if you think about it - who knows
better
how to pleasure a woman than another woman.
Trust that your partner will find fulfillment in you; your
breasts will
satisfy her; the feel of your naked body against hers will arouse her.
Not surprisingly, many women relate
that after their initial fear and doubt in their first sexual situation
with a
woman, once she had crossed the line she found that things came very
naturally
to her. She became more comfortable as
the previously taught stigmas and stereotypes melted away.
She instinctively knew how to pleasure her
partner and as two feminine bodies came together, any perceived
physical
incompatibilities were quickly erased.
When with passion she first brought a woman to orgasm and in
turn, also
was brought to orgasm by a woman, she learned that two women are
perfectly able
to share sensual, mutual and thorough intimacy.
As they abundantly made love, she learned the truth - she
learned what
sexuality can really be.
So the question should not be why do
some women prefer sex with other women, rather why in the world are
there more
than _some_ women who desire sexual satisfaction from males at all? I suspect that heterosexual attraction, to a
large degree, is a learned trait.
Certainly we are all immersed with this idea from the age of 3. I suspect that if this external training and
influence did not exist, that most women would in fact choose a female
mate. And if the tables were reversed and
homosexuality were portrayed as the norm in the way that
heterosexuality is
today, I suspect the natural desire women have for other women would
flourish,
and combined with the equity in female-female relationships, that quite
possibly, the majority of women would find themselves most contented in
the
arms of another woman.
Psychiatrists have shown that there
is a bonding that takes place during orgasm.
When two women make love, they connect at a much deeper level -
emotionally,
even spiritually, they bond in a way that two heterosexual women
cannot, with
respect to each other. This adds an
entirely new dimension to their relationship, and they share one of
life's
greatest experiences together.
Love between two women is as pure a
love as can be found, and the passion in their lovemaking is boundless. When two female bodies come together their
similarities multiply the experience - giving and receiving flow freely
and
simultaneously. There is not a more
natural act.
It is my belief that we are at a turning
point today. I believe the composition
of women as a group is about to take a drastic turn - a turn away from
arbitrary human contrivances, and towards natural and innate desires. So many outside forces have been eliminated -
for the first time ever our culture has recognized that a woman should
be free
to marry her soul mate, and that being a wife is more about love and
relationship than about human tradition.
Today, a woman is free to love another woman and share her life
with the
one who was meant to be her mate. Being
a wife is now about _her_, rather than about whether her spouse uses
the toilet
seat up or down. I can only imagine the
positive impact this will have on young girls as they develop their
identities
and position themselves for later life.
I feel sorrow for the multitude of
women who feel trapped in heterosexuality and unable to escape - many
because
of marriages, families, cultural training, tradition, complacency, or
fear -
yet they still long for a way out. But
for young girls today, the traps will have no hold over them. There is an
openness
and a learning that is taking place early in life so that rather than
being led
along by someone else's conscience, they are shaping their own
destinies. Most will have faced their
desires rather
than suppressed them and will have had experiences to serve as a guide
to them
so that they do not find themselves trapped in a situation down the
road due to
blindness.
The Internet has provided thousands
of married and single women the opportunity to acknowledge their
female-female
desires, to face them with others, and to receive the encouragement and
support
they need to deal with the reality of their true nature - even to the
point of
putting people in contact so that they are able to satisfy and live out
their
desires in real life.
Young girls, now more than ever, are
hearing a new truth in their schools and in the media
that is vastly different from the heterosexual dogma that used to have
exclusivity in our culture. They are now
learning
to listen to their hearts (and clits) and are unburdened so that they
may
experiment freely with their sexuality.
They are no longer alone in their environment, but now share
classrooms
and busses with many peers that have similar curiosities, giving them
many more
opportunities than in the past. The
lifting of the stigma of being "different" is melting away, and girls
will be making life choices for themselves based on their desires and
experience, rather than following a prescribed path for their life.
If you are one of those who is
suppressing your natural desires, I urge you, please
don't! Be true to yourself, and give
yourself that which you know deep inside that you want and need. If you are one of those who is curious or unsure, rest assured, there are
thousands in
your same position. Many of us were
there once and have found fulfillment by taking that first leap of
faith. It is a difficult decision, but you
owe it to
yourself to satisfy your curiosity, to know the unknown, and to see if
this is
what has been missing from your life. Be
free enough, secure enough and true enough to experiment.
Know that there are girls and women who long
to seek and learn _with_ you.
Denying your desires you will only bring
discontentment. Eventually it will well
up within you and demand release. You
may find a whole new life awaits you. I hope you find the passion and
fulfillment that you deserve. Be
encouraged
and feel confident; don't deny or wait; be the one to take that first
difficult
step.
Now look at your lover's body... see
how the two of you are a perfect match.
Reach for her hand... feel her
anticipation. Lean to her and kiss her
lips... taste how sweet she is. Lie with
her and connect your body to hers... feel her warmth and softness
against your
length. Move with her as if dancing...
feel her curves and undulations mesh with yours like a missing puzzle
piece. Place your hand on her
breast... feel her softness.
Caress her the way you have caressed your own
breasts so many times... feel her respond and harden to your touch. Suckle her fullness like a
babe... listen to her purr as she feeds you.
Traverse her folds and explore her depths...
learn of her warmth and moisture as she opens for you.
Delve inside her... feel her body tremble for
your touch. Feast on her femininity and
swallow her honey ... be nourished and sustained by her.
Look at your lover's face... memorize the joy
and bliss YOU have given her. Sleep in
her arms... enjoy wholeness and realize that this is your place. Know that this was pure... know that this was
good.
-THE END-
by Ginny
This and future stories will appear
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