Exotic Dancing, Sexual
Abuse
and Borderline personality disorder (BPD)
Showing some of the relationsips between
exotic dancing, sexual abuse,
and mental disorders.
Quotes from an article by Candi Cushman:
According to University of Pennsylvania psychiatrist Mary Anne Layden, between 60 and 80 percent of nude dancers were raped or sexually abused as children. One study found that 35% of strippers have Multiple Personality Disorder, 55% had Borderline Personality Disorder, and 60% had Major Depressive Episodes.Mrs. Dupree was a traveling "feature dancer" making $100,000 a year and buying fancy sports cars and luxury townhouses.
But the glittery lifestyle only served to hide deeper layers of anger and pain. The constant sight of women "crying in their money" backstage, and pressure to perform lewd acts to keep up with competition, gnawed at Mrs. Dupree.
She promised herself that she would never perform table or "lap dances," but "as time went on I lost more and more of my morality," she said. "Like little pieces, I just left them behind until in the end I was all used up and I had nothing left."
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Statistics suggest that as many as 1 in 4 children
becomes a victim of sexual abuse by the time they
reach
18 yrs of age.
Some Facts Psychologists Know
About…ADULT SURVIVORS OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE
Borderline Personality Disorder
http://www.mental-health-matters.com/disorders/dis_details.php?disID=17
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is characterized by a
pattern of unstable personal relationships,a self-image that is not well formed, and poor impulse control. The person suffering from BPD fears abandonment and
will go to any length to prevent this, including threats of suicide and self harm.
Lucy Berliner, author, trainer and therapist defines child sexual abuse as:
"the sexual exploitation of a child who is not developmentally capable of understanding or resisting the contact, or who may be psychologically and socially dependent upon the offender."Family Patterns Indicative of Child Sexual Abuse
Three interactional patterns of parents in incest families are often seen by professionals:The Dependent-Domineering Relationship - a dependent, inadequate man and a stronger, domineering woman. The woman often may refer to her husband as "one of the kids." He has little real power in the family, although he may be provoked to violent outbursts of anger. Eventually the mother-wife grows tired of her husband's dependency and his inability to meet her needs, and withdraws from him emotionally and sexually. He may then turn to a less threatening, more accepting and sympathetic female--his daughter.
The Possessive-Passive Relationship - occurs in patriarchal and certain conservative Christian families that emphasize male headship. The father controls everyone and everything in the home and perceives family members as his possessions. Although the wife may complain, for example about her limited grocery allowance, ultimately she tends to collude with her husband to maintain secrecy and keep the family system as it is.
Incestrogenic or Dependent-Dependent Relationships - frequently one or both of the parents have been sexually abused by their parents or other family members during childhood. These emotionally dependent and resentful adults cannot meet each other's needs or those of their children, and instead, they look to their children for love and parenting.
From: Statutory Rape: The
Dirty Secret Behind Teen Sex Numbers
http://www.ageofconsent.com/comments/numbereleven.htm
Two-thirds of births to teenage girls nationwide are fathered
by adult men age 20 or older.Fatherlessness is associated with increased risk of child sexual abuse.
Quote from Vickie Burress-Victims
Assistance Coordinator
www.ccv.org/images/Dancer_Hotline_Launched.pdf
“Escaping the industry ( exotic dancing )...is not
nearly as easy as it sounds. Most of the girls require
alcohol or drug withdrawal and rehabilitation, and virtually
all of them have deep-seated emotional problems that require
professional help..."Stripclubs According to
Strippers:
Exposing Workplace Sexual Violence Part 3, Women's Thoughts
on Stripping
Kelly Holsopple, 1998
Women say they don’t like men and men are worthless.
Likewise women believe stripping inhibits their ability to be
involved in a normal relationship. "It affects your lovelife
and feelings about men." "Nice boyfriends can’t handle
it."Strippers Need Love Too:
by Sheila Hageman
The longer I stripped the more I felt worthless at home and at work. I wanted to be a normal woman, but how could I be? If my boyfriend wanted to make love and I wasn't in the mood, wasn't he just like a strip club customer and I, a stripper, going through the motions without real enjoyment? It got harder and harder to differentiate between my real sexuality and what was part of the show. I didn't want to have to act in real life.
STRIPPING, A PRELIMINARY LITERATURE REVIEW
Prepared by Catherine Yamoor, Ph.D.
Dr. Sal Severe: Kids and Divorce:
Delayed Effects of Divorce
The aftermath of divorce lasts for years. A mother came to speak with me about her seventeen year-old daughter. Melody had always done well in school. She was a well behaved and trustworthy young lady. Within a two month period, it all turned around. Melody quit going to school, became promiscuous and got involved with drugs.
Should You Stay Together For The Kids?
As appeared in Time, September 25, 2000
BY WALTER KIRN
Children of divorce suffer depression, learning difficulties and other
psychological problems more frequently than those of intact families.
Expecting disaster, they create disaster. "They look for love in strange
places," Wallerstein says. "They make terrible errors of judgment...."
