If not..come on in, sit down, and I'll take your coat..
MEN:I am BI, not a lesbian (though nothin wrong with that), I do like men.
LADIES: You don't have to be bi to be here, just open minded...but if you are bi, thats cool too :0)
HOW DO MEN FEEL ABOUT MY BISEXUALITY?
Well I guess I get alot of different reactions and responses. One of the most common is "Can I watch u and one of ur girlfriends?"
I have 2 laugh at that one. Sorry guys, I am NOT interested AT all in couples, and if I want a man to watch or participate in any way I would let him know.
Most men are ok with my bisexuality for that reason, they see it as an "0pen" invite to watch 2 women together.
Although there are some that see that I am a pretty down to earth person once they get to know me.
Another question I get asked alot is "How can I get my wife/gf to try it?
First of all, if u have to sit back and try to think of ways to get her to try something, its probably safe to say she is NOT bisexual and also not interested...its not for everyone. So don't push the issue. U will only frustrate urself!
The only time my bisexuality has EVER really caused question or alarm was when a man wanted to get serious. They would question if I was able to be "committed" to just one person...or did I "have" to be with women to feel complete? The anser is right here...
WILL I CONTINUE TO BE WITH WOMEN IF I WAS IN A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP?
I will ALWAYS be a bisexual woman...NO MATTER WHAT!! That is who I am...
HOWEVER...
In order to be true to myself, and a potential relationship...I have to be committed to him..and him only. Only in a very rare instance have I involved someone else with us..and it was a "mutual" agreement, if it had not been, it would have been considered cheating..and thats really just plain dumb. If I was unhappy in a relationship, I would just end it. So that both of us could move on and have the opportunity to find happiness with someone else.
I am the stranger that smiles at you when your down...
I AM REAL..I AM HONEST..I AM ME.
I often get asked why I am bisexual, or how can I do that? Why don't I like men anymore?
I have great respect for "most" men ...I find their masculinity attractive, their ruggedness sexy..and I love to feel a set of nice strong hands holding me. And I love the way a man is able to make a woman feel.
I also love the softness of a woman.
Alot of straight women find it "nasty" or worry that I will "hit" on them.
Alot of gay women would say I am "confused"...don't know what I want. OR wanna have my cake and eat it too.
We have to look past the "old school" closed minded ways that we were taught to view things in life...the world would be a much better place if we could all be a little more accepting and "open minded" of others ways of thinking or choices.
For me being bisexual is not a 3sum, or a one night stand with a woman...it is MY WAY OF LIFE. A inner connection that I have shared with women.
So many people look at it as just "Sexual" or "Nasty".
We are all sexual beings...if u want to admit it or not. We long for attention, intimacy and touch to make us happy. We find people "attractive" or "Sexy"..we all feel some form of sexual feelings in our lives.
I don't believe sexuality is bad, or nasty, it is a way of expressing and sharing ourselves with someone we care about. Something, two people share with each other... at times just an attraction, a closeness....sometimes a bond.
And I happen to share this closeness with women..and I have even bonded with a few, however I have never been in a "committed" relationship with a woman.
I have also had some very long term relationships with men, which created some pretty tight bonds.
None of my long term relationships with men EVER ended because of my bisexuality.
There becomes a closeness with bi women..a feeling of total understanding, that I didn't completely get with men. I am not saying this could NEVER happen with a man, but as of yet, it has not. If I ever meet a man that makes me feel 100% complete..I am RUNNING to the nearest church and marrying him...lol
Yes I do want to be married one day.
My bisexuality has been a very special part of my life.
Just like there are 2 sides to every coin, there are 2 sides to my life as well.
Two parts that make me one whole person.
I am also often asked if I am scared of committment or if I have been deeply hurt by a man and "switched" over to women. I have never been hurt bad enough by a man that it suddenly caused me to like women. This is just me...its who I am.
I have thought from time to time that my life would have been alot easier if I was not bisexual.
but I have no regrets...I would have missed out on some of the most beautiful moments in my life if that were the case.
I just expect that people would ACCEPT me for what/who I am...and not what they WANT ME TO BE.
Trying to change someone is very frustrating and time consuming..
people are like shoes..if one doesn't fit well ...move on and get another pair! dont try 2 make them fit!
Thanks for being open minded enough to take the time to check out my thoughts and feelings about my bisexuality.
Acceptance is tha key to alot of new beginnings.