Bmom's Hjemmeside
"Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Parents Knew"
Written by Sherrie Eldridge Copyright by Sherrie Eldridge
TABLE OF CONTENTS
1. I suffered a profound loss before I was adopted. You are not
responsible.
2.I need to be taught that I have special needs arising from adoption
loss, of which I need not be ashamed.
3. If I don't grieve my loss, my ability to receive love from you and
others will be hindered.
4. My unresolved grief may surface in anger toward you.
5. I need your help in grieving my loss. Teach me to get in touch with
my feelings about my adoption and then validate them.
6. Just because I don't talk about my birth family doesn't mean I don't
think about them.
7. I want you to take the initiative in opening conversations about my
birthfamily.
8. I need to know the truth about my conception, birth, and family
history, no matter how painful the details my be.
9. I am afraid I was given away by my birth mother because I was a bad
baby. I need you to help me dump my toxic shame.
10. I am afraid you will abandon me.
11. I may appear more whole than I actually am. I need your help to
uncover the parts of myself that I keep hidden, so I can integrate all
the elements of my identity.
12. I need to gain a sense of personal power.
13. Please don't say I look or act just like you. I need you to
acknowledge and celebrate our differences.
14. Let me be my own person . . . but don't let me cut myself off from
you.
15. Please respect my privacy regarding my adoption. Don't tell other
people without my consent.
16. Birthdays may be difficult for me.
17. Not knowing my full medical history can be distressing at times.
18. I am afraid I will be too much for you to handle.
19. When I act out my fears in obnoxious ways, please hang in there with
me, and respond wisely
20. Even if I decide to search for my birth family, I will always want
you to be my parents.
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