This beautiful portrait and background were created by Sara, another true earth angel I met on line. (Please don't copy) No words could ever express my gratitude. Thank you so much. Love Angela
An appropriate explanation about memorial websites to those who haven't lost children, by Netta.
"I am sure that many people question why parents are putting memorial pages to their children on the world web. It is of course a way to remember our children, but it is more than that. The only help a parent can find when they are grieving the loss of a child, is in the company of another who fully understands that loss. This grief is a total devastation of us and everything our life has been. It is horrifying enough to lose a child, but to go through it alone is unbearable.
Many of these pages are an effort to reach out and touch each other. Sometimes by sharing our thoughts, we are able to give and receive comfort and help. If our words help even one person who has lost a child..... it is important and does deserve a place on the web. The Internet is the best way to reach out and try to touch those who are grieving and need what little support and comfort we can offer each other."
This is a story about a circle from which a large triangular wedge had been cut. The circle wanted to be whole, so it went looking for the missing piece. But because it was incomplete, it could only roll slowly. It admired the flowers along the way. It chatted with butterflies. It enjoyed the sunshine.
It found lots of pieces, but none fit. So it left them all by the side of the road and kept on searching. Then one day it found a piece that fit exactly. It was so happy. Now it could be whole, with nothing missing. But as a perfect circle, it rolled too fast to notice the flowers or talk to the butterflies. When it realized how different the world seemed, it stopped, left its missing piece on the side of the road and rolled on- appreciating life again.
In some strange sense we are more whole when we are incomplete. The man who has everything is in some ways a poor man. He will never know what it feels like to yearn, to hope, to dream. He will never know the experience of getting something he has always wanted and never had.
There is a wholeness about a person who can give his time, his money, his strength, to others and not feel diminished. There is a wholeness about the person who has come to terms with his limitations, who knows who he is and what he can and cannot do. There is wholeness about the man or woman who has learned he or she is strong enough to go through a tragedy and survive, the person who can lose someone through death, through estrangement, and still feel complete. At that point nothing can scare you. You have been through the worst and come through it whole.
-from HOW GOOD DO WE HAVE TO BE?:
A New Understanding of Guilt and Forgiveness by Harold S. Kushner
